It turns out that I was right about the subject of my previous post. Diane (my biological Mother[unfortunately for me]) did know that my Great Aunt Win was in a care facility and for whatever unacceptable reason chose not to tell either Gram or myself. So we were the only ones who didn't know. Nicely done people. And now you know why, I hardly ever discuss my family other than Gram. Most of people are proud of their families, not me. I'm so pissed off right now I wish I had a couple of 2 x 4 pieces of wood to chew on, if for no other reason than to spit the nails at my so called family.
This makes me wonder if the situation were reversed and it was my late Grandfather, still living and my Grandmother who had passed, would the family be pulling the same stunts and worse being allowed to get away with them. Because as of right now, my Grandmother's attitude is one of "What I don't know won't hurt me." Hard to say if the family would still do it, but I suspect they would if they could.
I know I shouldn't let this bother me as much as I do, but it does for one good reason. Diane and Gary (my Uncle) both had exactly the same upbringing I did and yet I'm the only to remember what it all was.
At least now I know my decision is clear. Once my duties to Gram are done, and I have my share of her estate, *poof* I am out of this family, and as far away from them as possible. Until then, I know I must spend as little time with them as possible so as not to become contaminated by whatever illness has befallen them.
This makes me wonder if the situation were reversed and it was my late Grandfather, still living and my Grandmother who had passed, would the family be pulling the same stunts and worse being allowed to get away with them. Because as of right now, my Grandmother's attitude is one of "What I don't know won't hurt me." Hard to say if the family would still do it, but I suspect they would if they could.
I know I shouldn't let this bother me as much as I do, but it does for one good reason. Diane and Gary (my Uncle) both had exactly the same upbringing I did and yet I'm the only to remember what it all was.
At least now I know my decision is clear. Once my duties to Gram are done, and I have my share of her estate, *poof* I am out of this family, and as far away from them as possible. Until then, I know I must spend as little time with them as possible so as not to become contaminated by whatever illness has befallen them.
3 comments:
Sis, I'm sorry you and Gram have been left out of the loop so often. :( It's neither right nor fair of Diane and Gary - and everyone else in the family - to just treat you and Gram the way they do.
It's cold comfort, I know, but what goes around comes around, and Karma will come around and bite them in their asses. They might understand better, then, how it feels to be included because the kids think they have to, rather than because they want to...
Hugs, my friend.
Loves ya!
My dear friend, consider taking a long vacation and come down to stay with me for a while before deciding where to live~~ You might find that this area agrees with you in MANY ways ~ emotionally especially. Yes, you are right to be angry, yes they have selective memory and isn't it wonderful that YOU have grown up and they are still in hiding.
Hugz from myself and the furkids
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